This talk was presented at Queer Stories in August. Queer Stories is a monthly queer story-telling event held at Giant Dwarf in Redfern, Sydney every month. The event is really great, and I encourage everyone to head along. You can get tickets to the next event here.
“I have two boyfriends actually,” I said to the man who was flirting rather aggressively with me on Grindr.
“Oh, I couldn’t do that” he replies. “I would never be willing to share you.”
He meant it to be sweet. As if having a random wanting to possess me would make me flock into his arms. It was, however, not sweet at all.
“Don’t worry” I replied “I’m never going to be yours to share.”
While this chat ended, these comments from gay men so common from gay men it’s not funny. When it comes to my relationships many like to judge, seeing that my and my partners sex lives make us ‘too queer’ to fit in anymore.